Does your boxing make you more confident, or paranoid?

[Primenal]

This is a weird thread I'm sure, but one that I felt like I needed to make. Whenever I was younger I was scrawny, sick, always lacked confidence so I went to weight lifting, and eating like a horse. A few years later I start boxing, and have been for about 5 years. I box, and do some martial arts like 4-5 times a week, as well as lift that many days.
I feel confident in who I am, but when it comes to fighting i'm paranoid as hell, and just expecting it to happen. I never got in to amatuers, but love to spar, and just train. I'd think it'd make me more confident, and relaxed, but seems like the more I do it, the more I think about it, and it's just a cycle.
I know you do something a lot, or watch/ listen to something it becomes your life. I just don't like the feeling of being paranoid whenever more than likely nothing will happen, and if it does...Honestly my body should know what to do by now. I got tons of advantage over most average joes, don't have that many flaws, everyone I spar is much bigger than me (because I don't find to much competition in sparring my own weight around my area), and I do well.
Just wanted to get an idea of how you guys get? It has boosted my confidence, but I think about it a ton more (and I really don't think I need to bother)....

[McGrain]

Try the Training section for this type of thing, chap.

[Starched Him]

All the sparring sessions in the world cant give you heart.
Im sorry this happened to you, its just genetics you dont come from a long line of warriors you spar because your inviorment or intrest not because its in your blood. If your brother is a fighter and great but your father or mother is not you maynot be. Ifyour brother uncles mother father are fighters you will be and you never hesitate or get shook you jump right in.
My brother myself mother grandmother grand father all fighters some street some in the ring I am a fighter I do not get scared I donot worry of the consequence I start anything off with a straight right and nothing else is needed because at that point I know it is over.
You dont have this instinct you are afraid embrace who you are. Only thing that can break you out of this is find the toughest guy around and snuff him with a hook to the the temple and a quick right to the chin if you spar like you say he cant continue and leave quickly before his friends grab there assault rifles if he dosent go down get ready for a long one and a loss it will break your confidence
good luck champ may the force be with you remeber to drive your legs through the ground and punch through his face not on his face

[klion22]

Yeah, maybe you just don't have heart. You can't teach that. You either have it or you don't.

[pathmanc1986]

All the sparring sessions in the world cant give you heart.
Im sorry this happened to you, its just genetics you dont come from a long line of warriors you spar because your inviorment or intrest not because its in your blood. If your brother is a fighter and great but your father or mother is not you maynot be. Ifyour brother uncles mother father are fighters you will be and you never hesitate or get shook you jump right in.
My brother myself mother grandmother grand father all fighters some street some in the ring I am a fighter I do not get scared I donot worry of the consequence I start anything off with a straight right and nothing else is needed because at that point I know it is over.
You dont have this instinct you are afraid embrace who you are. Only thing that can break you out of this is find the toughest guy around and snuff him with a hook to the the temple and a quick right to the chin if you spar like you say he cant continue and leave quickly before his friends grab there assault rifles if he dosent go down get ready for a long one and a loss it will break your confidence
good luck champ may the force be with you remeber to drive your legs through the ground and punch through his face not on his face



absolute fucking bollocks..........


if you are feeling nervous all the time its nothing to do with your boxing or physical condition - its a mental thing


dont think about fighting on the streets, surely your too old for that shit. of course if the situation becomes unavoidable where u have to use your skills by all means use them but using the sport to stop yourself from feeling anxious is never going to work. sounds like your thinking about fighting all the time and that will wear anyone down



training in boxing has made me a lot less likey to become involved in fights because a) i know in 95% of cases its alcohol induced and b) i know that most people are all mouth and if i hit someone with intent with no gloves on, im gona fuck that guy up and end up in court

[brown bomber]

All the sparring sessions in the world cant give you heart.
Im sorry this happened to you, its just genetics you dont come from a long line of warriors you spar because your inviorment or intrest not because its in your blood. If your brother is a fighter and great but your father or mother is not you maynot be. Ifyour brother uncles mother father are fighters you will be and you never hesitate or get shook you jump right in.
My brother myself mother grandmother grand father all fighters some street some in the ring I am a fighter I do not get scared I donot worry of the consequence I start anything off with a straight right and nothing else is needed because at that point I know it is over.
You dont have this instinct you are afraid embrace who you are. Only thing that can break you out of this is find the toughest guy around and snuff him with a hook to the the temple and a quick right to the chin if you spar like you say he cant continue and leave quickly before his friends grab there assault rifles if he dosent go down get ready for a long one and a loss it will break your confidence
good luck champ may the force be with you remeber to drive your legs through the ground and punch through his face not on his faceHa ha..... Wanna fight? Join the army.

[brown bomber]

absolute fucking bollocks..........


if you are feeling nervous all the time its nothing to do with your boxing or physical condition - its a mental thing


dont think about fighting on the streets, surely your too old for that shit. of course if the situation becomes unavoidable where u have to use your skills by all means use them but using the sport to stop yourself from feeling anxious is never going to work. sounds like your thinking about fighting all the time and that will wear anyone down



training in boxing has made me a lot less likey to become involved in fights because a) i know in 95% of cases its alcohol induced and b) i know that most people are all mouth and if i hit someone with intent with no gloves on, im gona fuck that guy up and end up in courtAbsolutely true... I went from been scared to stand in a room full of people to providing 1-2-1 security for the likes of Mylene Klass and Gok Wan... plus did the doors for 6 years- scrapping every week like a lunatic.

Experience breeds confidence.

[Primenal]

absolute fucking bollocks..........


if you are feeling nervous all the time its nothing to do with your boxing or physical condition - its a mental thing


dont think about fighting on the streets, surely your too old for that shit. of course if the situation becomes unavoidable where u have to use your skills by all means use them but using the sport to stop yourself from feeling anxious is never going to work. sounds like your thinking about fighting all the time and that will wear anyone down



training in boxing has made me a lot less likey to become involved in fights because a) i know in 95% of cases its alcohol induced and b) i know that most people are all mouth and if i hit someone with intent with no gloves on, im gona fuck that guy up and end up in court


Thinking you are right. As for lacking heart...I've sparred many people who outweigh me by 20-50 pds more, and not afraid to go to war. I was nervous sparring before, but now I don't really get nervous. I like taking a shot honestly...Gets the adrenaline pumping.
I just overanalyze the situation I think. I train for different things (besides boxing), and I'm thinking "if this happens...What'll I use?" Instead of much like sparring...Just let my body handle it. As for actual fighting I know I can handle most people one way or another (speed, strength, I got a good chin, or dirty tactics like JKD if I must), BUT perhaps confrontation makes me nervous?
I don't even drink or go to bars, and I think that enhances my odds of not fighting by about 90%. So, I believe in myself, odds are I will never physichally have too, but I just overanylyze a situation that isn't there, and can never figure why.
I'm sure a lot of people train for self defense, and I'm surprised things like this aren't stuck in anybody elses head.

[pare]

Thinking you are right. As for lacking heart...I've sparred many people who outweigh me by 20-50 pds more, and not afraid to go to war. I was nervous sparring before, but now I don't really get nervous. I like taking a shot honestly...Gets the adrenaline pumping.
I just overanalyze the situation I think. I train for different things (besides boxing), and I'm thinking "if this happens...What'll I use?" Instead of much like sparring...Just let my body handle it. As for actual fighting I know I can handle most people one way or another (speed, strength, I got a good chin, or dirty tactics like JKD if I must), BUT perhaps confrontation makes me nervous?
I don't even drink or go to bars, and I think that enhances my odds of not fighting by about 90%. So, I believe in myself, odds are I will never physichally have too, but I just overanylyze a situation that isn't there, and can never figure why.
I'm sure a lot of people train for self defense, and I'm surprised things like this aren't stuck in anybody elses head.

no, i hear you champ. i think a lot of people think about it these days - maybe not to the extent you do, but stuff like that does enter my head once in while. maybe it's cause the media accentuates that stuff. anyway, just don't worry about it. if it happens, it happens but you'd be more prepared than 99% of the population.

[elTerrible]

Are you saying youre nervous when you know you will have to spar or are you saying you are worried you will get into a fight somewhere outside the ring and get hurt?

If its the second, that isnt really rational. You could benefit by sitting down with some cognitive behavioral therapy. It is a lot better than the old days, they dont just sit on a couch and ignore your ramblings, its interactive. You have to train yourself to control your thought processes and to realize when you are being irrational and in time you wont be paranoid anymore.

[Starched Him]

Ha ha..... Wanna fight? Join the army.
My brother got kicked out for a good ko on his drill sergeant, The apple dosent fall far from the tree
which is what i was trying to explain to the thread starter

[Perky300]

My brother got kicked out for a good ko on his drill sergeant, The apple dosent fall far from the tree
which is what i was trying to explain to the thread starter

oh be quiet, being nervous and scared about fighting isn't ''whats in your blood'' its to do with experience, its been said before in this thread

[Johnboy2007]

All the sparring sessions in the world cant give you heart.
Im sorry this happened to you, its just genetics you dont come from a long line of warriors you spar because your inviorment or intrest not because its in your blood. If your brother is a fighter and great but your father or mother is not you maynot be. Ifyour brother uncles mother father are fighters you will be and you never hesitate or get shook you jump right in.
My brother myself mother grandmother grand father all fighters some street some in the ring I am a fighter I do not get scared I donot worry of the consequence I start anything off with a straight right and nothing else is needed because at that point I know it is over.
You dont have this instinct you are afraid embrace who you are. Only thing that can break you out of this is find the toughest guy around and snuff him with a hook to the the temple and a quick right to the chin if you spar like you say he cant continue and leave quickly before his friends grab there assault rifles if he dosent go down get ready for a long one and a loss it will break your confidence
good luck champ may the force be with you remeber to drive your legs through the ground and punch through his face not on his face

Possibly the biggest load of bollocks iv ever heard!!??

[brown bomber]

My brother got kicked out for a good ko on his drill sergeant, The apple dosent fall far from the tree
which is what i was trying to explain to the thread starterSo he's an idiot? Well done.:patsch

[beatdown]

All the sparring sessions in the world cant give you heart.
Im sorry this happened to you, its just genetics you dont come from a long line of warriors you spar because your inviorment or intrest not because its in your blood. If your brother is a fighter and great but your father or mother is not you maynot be. Ifyour brother uncles mother father are fighters you will be and you never hesitate or get shook you jump right in.
My brother myself mother grandmother grand father all fighters some street some in the ring I am a fighter I do not get scared I donot worry of the consequence I start anything off with a straight right and nothing else is needed because at that point I know it is over.
You dont have this instinct you are afraid embrace who you are. Only thing that can break you out of this is find the toughest guy around and snuff him with a hook to the the temple and a quick right to the chin if you spar like you say he cant continue and leave quickly before his friends grab there assault rifles if he dosent go down get ready for a long one and a loss it will break your confidence
good luck champ may the force be with you remeber to drive your legs through the ground and punch through his face not on his face

What an idiotic ramble:patsch

[GNARL]

I greatly recommend reading Gold Medal Mental Training for Combat Sports by Dariusz Nowicki. It will explain which mental exercises you need to perform to be a good fighter. You can achieve everything you like with the correct mental preparation.
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[pretty boy]

Its 90% mental

[Pugsley]

Possibly the biggest load of bollocks iv ever heard!!??

No its true. Some people come from a bloodline of blood thirsty warriors where they come out of their tribal huts and blood rains from the sky. They get into their large ships and hunt aliens like fodder across the galaxy. Thats why their aunt's grandma's cousin's half brother keep the family tree in a straight line. Yeah I was born to be a warrior!!!!!!

[how5er]

I watch TUF and you get to see a lot of how the fighters are coming up to a fight and you see how nervous they get, And believe me they get very very nervious and then perform at a very high level!

I am actually in the middle of watching the JBD V Tyson upset and JBD talks about how the nervs help sharpen up all his senses proir to the bout!

I get that nervous feeling a lot, especially when i go out clubbing/pubbing or drinking.

I have the same kind of story where i started to bodybuild at a young age then went onto Kickboxing now at a late age ive just had my first bout in boxing, So i can really feel where your coming from!

I tried CBT once also i was ok for a short time but i just guess i live with how i feel

[scotchpieirnbru]

Nerves, in my opinion are good for a fighter as it keeps you alert and your reactions quick.

I have fought boxing and muay thai and every fight i had i was nervous as hell. You do have to relax you mind coming up to a fight though as a few times i went into the ring mantally exhuasted from worrying about things.

But i actually think i know what you mean about constantly thinking about confrontation. I do the same thing, and i think it is becuase it becomes second nature to you, to try and figure people and situations out with what you actually do best. Fighting.

I took about a year and a half to 2 year break from boxing and found i was far more relaxed around people when out at clubs and social events than when i was training for fights. Its like your mind is constantly alert for aggression. But eases up when your training eases up.

I think i know exactly what you mean.

[Starched Him]

Is it untrue that he lacks heart the reason why hes scared???????

[Starched Him]

So he's an idiot? Well done.:patsch
nah, he beat his drill seargeant in a Match, they had to stop the fight drill seargeant didnt like this to much so he did what they do best fuck with people and oh well he see the diffrence between being in the ring with gloves and being without