Help convincing the fiancée that boxing is not that bad

[poxv2]

Hi, first a little back ground, I have been with my fiancée for about 7 years now, and about 10 months ago I started boxing just to get in shape, wasn’t looking to spar just wanted the boxing work outs and enjoyed hitting the bag. I started sparing off and on about 7 months ago, and fell in love with it and the sport of boxing. My fiancée wasn’t too happy about this but she accepted it.. sort of out of sight out of mind.

Over the last few months a coach has been working with me and a few others after class cause he enjoys training us. He’s mentioned a few times that there would be the possibility of taking a Amateur fight in the future.

Now I passed that by the fiancée and she freaked and said I wasn’t caring about the future cause im putting my self at risk and a bunch of other random craziness.

I have explained to her its amateur, there will be helmets, the gym wont let me take a fight unless I had the skill level to defend myself (my gym is big on this, the owner is an ex boxer and he was never knocked out and wants the same for the people at his gym). But all this seams to be falling on deaf ears.

I really would like to take a fight sometime in the future just to test myself and say I did it and can look back on my time in boxing saying that I gave it a shot and I went as far as I could go. But not about to lie and go behind my fiancée’s back. I would like her to approve or at least grudgingly accept it, cause I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

So I need your help with different ways of trying to convince her about letting my take a fight. Or how you where or are able to smooth things over with your SO/wives on boxing.

[viru§™]

Hi, first a little back ground, I have been with my fiancée for about 7 years now, and about 10 months ago I started boxing just to get in shape, wasn’t looking to spar just wanted the boxing work outs and enjoyed hitting the bag. I started sparing off and on about 7 months ago, and fell in love with it and the sport of boxing. My fiancée wasn’t too happy about this but she accepted it.. sort of out of sight out of mind.

Over the last few months a coach has been working with me and a few others after class cause he enjoys training us. He’s mentioned a few times that there would be the possibility of taking a Amateur fight in the future.

Now I passed that by the fiancée and she freaked and said I wasn’t caring about the future cause im putting my self at risk and a bunch of other random craziness.

I have explained to her its amateur, there will be helmets, the gym wont let me take a fight unless I had the skill level to defend myself (my gym is big on this, the owner is an ex boxer and he was never knocked out and wants the same for the people at his gym). But all this seams to be falling on deaf ears.

I really would like to take a fight sometime in the future just to test myself and say I did it and can look back on my time in boxing saying that I gave it a shot and I went as far as I could go. But not about to lie and go behind my fiancée’s back. I would like her to approve or at least grudgingly accept it, cause I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

So I need your help with different ways of trying to convince her about letting my take a fight. Or how you where or are able to smooth things over with your SO/wives on boxing.

Get her to come watch you train/fight. Hopefully she'll realize it isn't as bad as she thinks...

[Relentless]

i can tell she wears the pants.

[poxv2]

Get her to come watch you train/fight. Hopefully she'll realize it isn't as bad as she thinks...

I think I might just do that... arange the sparing to be realy light too...

[paloalto00]

Show her a clip of Cotto vs Clottey xD

[dfh85]

don't let james toney read this topic or hell go ape

[GPater11093]

It's your choice in the end.

[amy]

I think there is information on USA Boxing's website about the safety of amateur boxing. It's full of all kinds of statistics about boxing vs other sports. And surprisingly enough, cheerleading is more dangerous than amateur boxing as far as reported injuries are concerned.
Do some research and come to her with some information showing that it's safe and that should be enough.

Like GP said, it's your choice in the end. Granted, she is your future wife, but you should come to some sort of compromise since you are actually doing something to stay healthy and fit. Would she rather you sat around eating junk and drinking beer? That's far more dangerous than boxing.

[Mike_S]

She should understand if you love it and get her to see the positives it brings and how good it makes you feel. Tell her 10 year olds and girls do it haha.

[thejokerswild]

Definitely show her USA Olympic Boxing Team clips, they are all class.

Explain to her it's a technical point scoring sport.

Get her to watch you train, that could impress her.

Also pull out the Ali clips, Muhammad is all class, people love him and he definitely represents whats good in the boxing world.

[TheRock49]

Change your tampon, set down your purse and tell her you don't need her permission. I'd say you're a grown man so u can make your own choices but if you're making threads like this, I dont know.

[achillesthegreat]

Show her amateur boxing and she'll see it is largely human fencing. Show her the stats and I'm sure amateur boxing is safer than american football, rugby etc I'm sure there must be less concussions etc The ko ratio in amateur boxing is terrible.

[viru§™]

Change your tampon, set down your purse and tell her you don't need her permission. I'd say you're a grown man so u can make your own choices but if you're making threads like this, I dont know.

Or maybe he loves his fiancée and doesn't want to have her upset over something he's doing.

Some of the replies on this forum are so childish.

[amy]

Or maybe he loves his fiancée and doesn't want to have her upset over something he's doing.

Some of the replies on this forum are so childish.
agreed

[viru§™]

She should understand if you love it and get her to see the positives it brings and how good it makes you feel. Tell her 10 year olds and girls do it haha.

She obviously cares about him. He sees the sport he loves, she sees stuff like this in the papers.

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This is all most people know about boxing, you get hurt.

[AndrewFFC]

Punch her.

[KTFO]

Punch her.


This is not the lounge bro.



To the OP:

To tell the truth, she's right, you'll get hurt. On the other hand, what does her opinion really count.

[cheech]

Tell her if she is concerned about the marriage then she better not complain about you boxing. Boxing has nothing to do with cooking or cleaning so its really none of her business..

[boxingwizard]

My parents are the same way as your fiancee, they try to discourage me from boxing and always see it as a negative thing and unnecessary for me, probably because I'm college educated and don't have to box. But it was ok for me to play American football to them. I'm just going to keep on doing it because I've already put so much time and effort into it, and it gets me in great shape, sure it'll cause drama with my family but I'll do what I want. I'm sure you have similar feelings to me on the subject.

[thejokerswild]

I understand why your partner is against it, I would hate to see any family member or partner hurt or suffering.

You want to win her confidence over by showing dedication and potential. Show her it means a lot to you and that you're being cared for by your trainer. She probably wants to see a real good reason why you want to fight then she needs to see it that way too.

Once she gets her head over the idea of fighting, she will probably be 'impressed' on by it. Takes a lot of character to do it

[Johnboy2007]

I think you should think of it this way, would you be ok with her boxing ? Chance of her getting injured and busted up? If you would be ( you have to be honest here ) then fair enough, if not maybe you should rethink yourself lol:lol:

[poxv2]

Thanks for all the great ideas